Monday, 31 August 2015

First Rakshabandhan as Mrs. Jain!!!

Hello lovely readers,

I am sure all of you had a great Rakshabandhan. Most of us are still not over the festival. I was too lazy to get up for office, had to push myself real hard (same pinch to other lazy people like me :p).

This Rakshabandhan was really special for me, well, it had to be, for it was my first Rakshabandhan as Mrs. Jain!!! My husband's cousins came over to our place in the afternoon. Me and my husband were made to sit together. The sisters tied rakhi to my husband and also to me. At my place, we did not have the tradition of tying rakhi to the bhabhi. It felt really good.

After that, we left for my home. My family was eagerly waiting to see me. On the way, I got a call from my mummy that my papa's chachiji wanted to see me. Due to health reasons, she could not attend our wedding and hence, she was quite eager to see me. When me and my husband reached her place, my father was already there. She was so happy to see me after my wedding, along with my husband. After spending some time with her, we proceeded towards my home. So eager was my mother to see us.

After settling down, I tied rakhi to my brother with all the rituals. My husband's rakhi sister could not tie rakhi to my husband as she had a flight to catch. And co-incidentally my maamaji (mother's brother) could not make it to our place for some reason. So my mother tied rakhi to my husband. She became really senti as she said, "mera bhai nahi aa paya, to aisi situation ban gayi ki maine R****** ko raakhi baand di." I felt really good seeing this as this brought a smile on my mother's face who was obviously sad as my maamaji could not come.

And so, the festival went off really well. And yes, husband and my cousin gave compliments for my suit. Unfortunately, I forgot to click a picture. It was only when we were coming back home that me and husband realized that we forgot to click pictures :(

I will try to update this post with my picture wearing the suit that I wore for rakhi the next time I wear it.

I know this post is too much of details but I could not stop myself from writing all of it as these small things mean a lot to me.

Thanks for stopping by!

Loads of love,
Mrs. Jain

Thursday, 20 August 2015

8 months into marriage and a sneak peak!!!

Hello all,

It has been long since I posted something here. I can't even believe it has been 8 months since I have been marriage. Now I can very well relate to the experiences of my fellow bloggers +Shikha S and +Roli Gaur Vashisht. Time just flew, and how beautifully.

Looking back at these months, the journey has been beautiful. Marriage has given us so many happy moments, moments that will always remain in our hearts, as fresh as ever. We laughed together, smiles together, cried, and whatnot. Marriage is definitely a roller-coaster ride.

Will try my best to post regularly. At least that is what I hope.

Loads of love,

Mrs. A

Friday, 19 December 2014

I am back!!!

                                                    I AM BACK!!!!!

Coming back to blogging is the only reason of me being happy to come back after the break. It feels so different to join work after a long gap of 20 days. But then, life has to move on.

All the wedding functions were perfectly in place, both sides had so much fun. We are sure that our wedding has been one of the most memorable ones. We are waiting for the professional photographs and I will soon show them to you.

Till then, enjoy the winters and stay safe.

Lots of love

Monday, 24 November 2014

8 days to go!!!!

It just seems like yesterday that I had my roka and now, the day is 8 days away, just 8 days away. The preparations are in full swings, my maternal grandparents arrived yesterday, and now I get the feel of a "Shaadi wala ghar." It is so true that the arrival of relatives really turns the house into a "shaadi wala house."

The wedding functions start on 30th November, the first function being the engagement. The mehendi is on 1st December and the wedding is on 2nd December.

Will share the updates as soon as I am back. See you guys soon. Till then, keep smiling, stay happy, and enjoy the winters.

Lots of love.



Thursday, 30 October 2014

Do you love your body?

                               
                                                        10 years back...
             
Mr. A: Arre, beta tum itni patli ho, kuch khaati nhi ho? (You are so thin, don't you eat anything?)

Ms. B: Dekho to is ka haath, saari haddiyan dikh rahi hain! (Look at her hand, all her bones are visible.)
                           
Ms. CBeta kela khaaya karo roz, moti ho jaogi. (Eat bananas daily, you will gain wait.)

Mr. DTum pe kapde aise lagte hain jaise hanger pe daale ho. (Clothes on you look like they have been put on a hanger.)



                                                          4-5 years back....
                           
 Mr. XThoda kam khaya karo beta, nahi to or bhi moti ho jaogi. (Eat less, otherwise you will become fatter after sometime.)
                                 
Ms. Y: You should exercise, do yoga, keep yourself fit, or no "fit guy" will marry you.
                                 
Ms. ZAb to shaadi ki umar hone wali hai, abhi se patla hona start kar do, taki sahi time aane tak tum patli ho jao. (You are about to reach the marriageable age. Start working out now so that by the time you are to get married, you will get slim.)



I am sure that by reading the above conversations, you would have understood the reason behind this post. I guess we all have gone through this situation at least once in our lives, if not, you are really lucky!

The most important thing regarding your body is that it is "YOURS." Nobody has the right to comment on it, no matter how close that person is to you. We all should respect other's choices and decisions in life, which even include one's body.

First of all, we all have to “love ourselves” and only then people will see us the way we want them to. If we find faults in ourselves, trust me, the people around have Ph.Ds. in doing so. Give them one hint that you do not love the way you look, they will find 1000 other faults in you. So start loving yourself, be confident about the way you look, and soon you will see people loving you for what you are.

Another thing to note is that society is a mirror of your imperfections. You will get to know your imperfections even before you see them, and in some cases, they will show you things which you did not even know existed. The decision to listen/not listen to them is on you, which undoubtedly is the toughest decision to make.  Your brain would want to ignore what it heard, while your heart will suffer grief because of the comments. The choice lies on you to follow your heart or your brain.
Talking about myself, I was really thin until 6th standard. People used to throw in their suggestions on me to gain weight. I got the weirdest suggestions as well and it was since then that I started to hate my body.  I thought there was something wrong in me. People need to understand that a child’s mind is too na├»ve, even a small negative comment can leave him scarred for life. He needs acceptance and not bombardment of his imperfections on his face.  The child does not have the strength to accept anything negative about him. It is only through age that he gets to know the bitter truths of life. I was really going into a shell when people used to comment about my body. But slowly, I was starting to accept things, or that I realized that I had to live with it throughout. But then, slowly, I started gaining weight. I thought maybe that was the answer to all my worries but as destiny would have had it, I was getting overweight. I would call it “Chubbier.” And then, the people who used to advise me regarding gaining weight, did just the opposite. It was not easy, it really wasn’t. But somehow, I was again getting used to it. Did I have any option? It really tore me apart when people commented on my weight, and I was like, “Come on, haven’t you seen anyone worse than me?” People were so into commenting on me that I was left to think that I am the fattest person on earth. I had seen worst cases as well and I would say, “Why am I being targeted? Am I the only “fat” person these people have seen? Do I really look that fat?” I never had answers to my questions. No matter how much I tried, I was left clueless. Slowly, I was learning to accept those comments.  

Then came a life-changing moment in my life. It was my cousin’s wedding in the coming 5-6 months and I knew I had to look good. I knew this was the time to give it back. No one could stop me now. I worked hard to achieve my goal.  I avoided junk/oily food and fed my body with “good” things. And, it was working. I was shedding the extra kilos. I won’t say that I turned super slim by the wedding, but yes, I did manage to look good, look “slim.” It was a great motivation for me to continue doing what I had been doing. I was loving the compliments that I was getting. Within time, my own wedding got fixed and I was determined to keep working in the same direction. And yes, I have managed to achieve what I wanted. I look like I always wanted to.

In all the stages regarding my weight loss/gain, there were people who were never happy with the way I looked. They found faults in every state, maybe it was their only motive in life to comment. Slowly, I realized that people comment on other’s faults just to satisfy their ego, they know their imperfections, and to camouflage them, they find faults with others. My best advice would be to ignore such people in your life and just move towards your goals. The happiness   that you will get in the end would be way beyond the grief after hearing those comments. So, love your body and keep working towards your goals.

I would like to say a big “Thank You” to Mr. R for being my biggest supporter during this time. He was the motivation behind me. He made me feel beautiful in every possible way. He motivated me to lose those extra kilos and show the world that even I could look beautiful. The way I look today is all because of his efforts. There were times when I got angry and irritated because of his constant push, there were times when I thought that even he is like other guys who want a “slim partner.” It was only later that I realized that he was doing this for me. He wanted that happiness on my face when people showered me with compliments. I really owe this to him and love him for what he has done for me.



In the end, it’s all about being positive. Stay positive, stay focused, and no goal is far. Stay healthy, stay happy!!!




* Images have been taken from Google.