3 months to go!

It was like waiting for this day forever, and now, it is just 3 months away... Yes, my D-Day is only 3 months away. I am already too nervous, so many thoughts crowding my head. One thought leads to another and then I have to divert myself to not think about things and save myself from the tension. It is really difficult to keep calm!

Being a bride-to-be brings forward so many emotions, like all my fellow brides, I am going through the same. Whenever I think about the wedding, the first thought that comes to my mind is the idea of having all attention on you. I have always been a shy girl, finding it a bit difficult to gel up with people, and the fact that hundreds of eyes will be on you, witnessing every single movement of yours is a bit scary. I wish I could just run towards the stage rather than walking slowly, or probably I could just enter from behind the stage, no need to cross the passage. Coming back to reality, I have no option, I will have to walk the stage and face that thing I dread the most. But then, the thought of Mr. R standing on the stage would be enough to give me courage to cross the hurdle. there is no happiness in the world to be be person who brings out the best in you, does his best to keep you smiling, fulfilling all your wishes, and treating you like a queen. That love is way beyond the fear of crossing those hundred eyes.

Here is the first update of my weeding, things done and left to do-

1. VENUE- The venue has been booked. The caterer and decorator has to be chosen from the panel. 

2. WEDDING LEHENGA- Booked, will be delivered in November

3. HONEYMOON-Waiting for passport and then the booking will be made.

4. GUEST LIST-  The list keeps changing everyday, with additions and deletions, which relatives to be called in which function.

5.  TROUSSEAU- The suits and sarees are done, left with 3 party wear suits. Done with footwear, lingerie and hand bags. Have to start hunting for the wedding shoes and clutches. The suits and blouses are yet to be given for stitching. I absolutely hate giving measurements, then checking and rechecking the fittings.. Aarrgghhh...

6. PRE-BRIDAL/BRIDAL- The makeup artist has been booked, she will take care of both.

7.  INVITATION CARDS- Yet to start!

8.  JEWELRY- We will be going to check gold jewelry this weekend. I won't buy any heavy stuff, just light ones that won't make me look overdressed or "obvious newly-wed." The artificial jewelry has been done.

9. CHOODA/KALEERE- I got my wedding chooda and kaleere on my visit to Chandigarh last month. I am so in love with my chooda, can't wait to wear it.

10. SAVE THE DATE- Save the date cards have been sent to friends.

PENDING STUFF- Will buy winterwear, dresses, beachwear, cosmetics by end of  October/ beginning of November. Have to finalize the mehendi artist this month itself. The engagement rings will be finalized by October. The wedding photographer will be finalized this month.

Quite a few tasks are done, and many still left, but then, most of it is the family's responsibility and time for me to chill!

A bed of roses???

Don't go by the title, I don't wish to write any cheezy thing here (Sorry to those who expected something else, but got something different :p)
Wedding or rather an upcoming wedding is a big happiness. Everything seems to be so good, there's love all around, smiling faces around you. But I ask, is it all happiness everytime? Does the reality take us somewhere else? Read on to know...
No one wants sad days in his/her life no one wants anything bad happening with himself/herself, but how far can we actually control things?  How much control can we actually exercise on our lives? The answer is WE HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO CONTROL. But that's purely my opinion. A few of you might feel that they have been controlling their lives forever, that they dictate each and every action of their lives. We all have different perception about our life. I feel helpless at times, not being able to control a few things, not being able to stop something from happening.
No wonder the courtship period is the best phase that a couple sees, but is it always as beautiful as expected?  Is it all about love, happiness and smiles? NO. It brings a lot more with it. It has tears, tensions, anger, frustration and whatnot. You tend to behave in a certain way but something else happens. You want to smile but you end up crying. You plan something but the exact opposite happens. Is it with everyone else or just that I am the only victim?
Yes this is my courtship period, the beautiful time that I am getting to spend with Mr. R before our wedding. We obviously want to have happy memories of the same and we do. But at times, we end up arguing on silly things, frustrated for no reason, ultimately fighting with each other. It feels bad, like really really bad. I know it's not good to act that ways but as I said, some things are just beyond our level. We have little or no control over things. Neither of us wants our day to end on a sad note, but then it just happens.
I discussed with other brides-to-be of they experience the same things (I am a part of a WhatsApp group where we are three brides-to-be, all getting married this winters,  exciting no?). They all had same experiences as me (Ah, what a relief!) Even they got irritated without a reason, fought on silly things, ended up sleeping with an angry face. It that how it was supposed to be?
Having said that, we also share some beautiful "we" moments, sharing funny moments, days at office, our future, getting to know each other more each day, strengthening the relationship with each passing day, falling in love everyday, all over again. Perhaps it is rightly said, wedding brings hell lot of emotions, transformations, jitters, etc. So far, I am loving this journey, waiting to see what more it has to offer.
How was your courtship period?  How well did it work for your relationship?  I would love to hear from you. 

How it feels...

Every girl dreams of her wedding and the curiosity associated with it. The word "wedding" brings forward so many emotions in just a few seconds, happiness to be with the person you love, the pain of leaving your parents behind, the curiosity of your new life, the fear of compromises and adjustment, phew!!!

 And then, it's the happiness to be with your love for the rest of your life that wins all over your fears, inhibitions and the sadness. It is the thought of starting a new life, your life, together! It is difficult to explain how it feels as the wedding day is almost there, with so much going around you, shopping, bookings, work, stress, and the list continues...

The more days are passing, the more irritated I am, almost everytime, without a logical reason (Poor hubby Mr. R has to bear the consequences... Love you for that :*)

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I shout without any reason, I tend to get a lot of mood swings, I think a lot, I over-plan, and when things do not work my way, I get furious. I am not sure whether it happens with all the brides-to-be, or whether it is only with me. Whatever it is, I was not like this before, and trust me, I do not want to be like this. Will surely try to control the mood swings and give some happiness to Mr. R.

Besides the mood swings, it is all a happy-happy feeling, the feeling of a bride-to-be. This is undoubtedly the best phase in a girl's life, with all the pampering that she gets from her family and the extended family. You get everything you want, all your wishes are fulfilled. The parents who never allowed splurging, happily let you go your way, feels amazing.

The courtship days are truly the best days in a relationship. This is the time when your relation with your partner grows, the never-ending trust develops, this is your "WE" time, the time nobody can take from you, the time nobody can ever return you. Each day is beautiful and special in its own way. Something new happens everyday, something brings us closer everyday. Everyday you realize how important that person is for you, how incomplete you are without him/her. No one can actually describe the feeling. (So Mr. R, if you are reading it, I LOVE YOU...)

I am looking forward the rest of the days left before my wedding, to see what surprises life has for me. And yes, it is 98 days to go!!!

98 days to go!

Hello Readers,

After reading hundreds of blogs in the past few months, here I am with my very own blog. The blog will cover my journey from a bride-to-be to the new bride in town. The D-Day is just 98 days away, with all the madness, nervousness, jitters, and above all, sheer happiness.

Stay tuned for more. See you all soon!