Falling in love is a wonderful and a beautiful feeling, and when it happens, we want the world to know about it. But what it the right amount of showing it? Public Displays of Affection "PDA" can elicit a wide range of reactions at times. How often have you gone out and seen couples getting all cosy in public and stared at them for doing so. Do you favour PDA or just turn away your face from the sight? Is there any "acceptable" limit or is it based on just what the couple finds to be acceptable?
Personally, I am a bit shy, but when it comes to expressing my love, I do not care what others have to say, which does not mean that I would do any sort of thing just in the name of "love." I believe every emotion has various ways in which it can be expressed, doing it publicly or privately does not change your love for someone.
There is a thin line between expressing love and making things look vulgar. Today, the mentality of Indians in changing. They are accepting the fact that love is not something that has to be shown only in a closed space, but it is something, when done in limit, can even be shown publicly, without causing embarrassment.
I love it when people express their love publicly, the way they pamper each other and make each other feel special. It is not like they are proving to the world that they love each other. They just show it when they feel like doing it, not suppressing their feelings for a later time when it would be a "private display of affection."
It is always a personal choice as to whether we want or do not want to express our love publicly. But what if one person likes doing it but his/her partner does not like it? What is the middle way? Will the person who likes it stop expressing himself/herself because the partner does not like it? Will that person suppress his feelings and save them for a later date and a private space?
Love is a beautiful feeling. Without you even realizing, it would change you into a totally different person, and invoke all emotions in you. And there is no harm in expressing it unless you do it within the acceptable limits. So go ahead, give a hug, spread love!!!
I can totally relate to what you have written. Personally when I am in a group, like going out with friends or relatives, I think one should limit PDA's to hand-holding coz this might make other people in a group uncomfortable.
ReplyDeleteBut if you and your partner are on a date (only the two of you), I don't think there is anything wrong in PDA as long as it is not vulgar.
My partner is totally shy with PDA and that's not the case with me. We are still trying to find a middle-ground without trying not to hurt each other's feelings and making each other uncomfortable.
- Dia
Well said Dia. When me and my fiance are with our families, we can't even hold hands, we feel so shy. But when we are alone, we express it without making it look cheap or vulgar.
DeleteI can understand your situation. Finding a middle-ground is actually tough in this case. But I believe every problem has a solution and I am sure you both will definitely find a way out, without compromising on each other's feelings.
hahaha.. before marriage we not even used to look into each other eyes when parents were around but when alone we used to hold hand. mine was other way round, boy used his hand a lot when he talk. he himself at time doesn't know, he casually he used to pat on cheeks or shoulder or touch hair, play around with fingers and it will give me butterflies. :p Its ok to show your love at times and hugging and holding hands is OK... But make sure which place you are at :)
ReplyDeleteAww, that is so cute. Men generally do not realize this at times but my guy is too intelligent. My point is exactly the same Shikha, nothing is wrong unless over-done or done at a wrong place/time.
DeleteLiked the way you presented the fact but again ...personal discretion and personal choices matter.....
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely Megha. It is the sweetest thing to do but only when done in limit and considering the surrounding.
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